A lot of times people think of wellness in terms of physical or heath wellness. Though they are important, you must also include mental wellness. Here is a list of 13 things mentally well people avoid to help them in their ability to deal with daily life.
Mentally Well People Avoid:
1. Feeling Sorry For Themselves.
Do not feel sorry for yourself because life is not fair. You need to assume responsibility for your actions and results. If things do not work out the way you intended, be grateful for the lesson learned and move on.
2. Giving Away Control. You need to have confidence in yourself and not let others influence your emotions or actions. Be in control.
3. Getting Stuck In A “Rut”. Embrace change and new challenges. You must be able to conquer your fears and keep moving one foot forward even when you end up taking two steps back first.
4. Wasting Energy On Things You Can Not Control. The Alcoholic Anonymous Serenity Prayer is a great example for this, “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.”
5. Worrying About Pleasing Others. You need to be able to speak up in situations, but do it in a kind and graceful manner. People may get upset with you, but all parties involved must be able to walk away from the conversation with respect for each other.
6. Fearing Risk. You must be able to logically calculate the risks and rewards before taking action, do not let your emotions take over.
7. Dwelling On The Past. You need to live in the present and look toward the future. There is nothing wrong with reminiscing about the past, but you have to live for today and tomorrow.
8. Making A Mistake Twice. Mistakes happen and you need to learn from them and not repeat them. Mark the mistake up to your “learning curve” and move on.
9. Being Jealous Of Others. You need to have the genuine character to be happy for others success and still be able to work hard for your own success in a honest manner.
10. Quitting After Failure. Don’t throw in the towel just because it did not work. Try option B, option C, and so on. Make sure you are continually learning before moving on to the next option.
11. Fearing Being Alone. The book “The Road Less Traveled”, by M. Scott Peck, M.D. is recommended reading. Spending time alone to do some soul searching will take you to a new level of appreciation for others, life, and your surroundings.
12. Feeling The World Owes You. Life does not owe you one thing. Life is there for the taking and it is your preparation and hard work that will make you reap the rewards life has to offer.
13. Expecting Immediate Results. The 3 P’s of patience, persistence, and perseverance are the keys to successful results.
-Amy Morin’s article in LifeHack and Cheyl Conner’s article in Forbes.